Mr. Tom is a formerly feral cat. He showed up as a fully mature feral tom cat, shortly before I started doing TNR (Trap, Neuter, and Return). Stash is his daughter. Also formerly feral. She was the only one out of her litter that I was unable to trap during my first round of TNR.
When Mr. Tom started visiting, he didn’t bolt like the other ferals when I came outside. He walked away confidently. He wouldn’t let near him, but when other toms came around to fight over his food we had an agreement. I would stand watch on the porch so he could eat in peace a couple of feet away.
It took six years for him to let me touch him at all. After that it only took a couple of weeks for us to become best buddies. It was a few more years before he was willing to stay in the house at all.